Pornography-printed or visual material containing the explicit description or display of sexual organs or activity, intended to stimulate erotic rather than aesthetic or emotional feelings. Pornographic films, erotic films, or sex films are films that present sexually explicit subject matter in order to arouse and satisfy the viewer. Pornographic films present sexual fantasies and usually include erotically stimulating material such as nudity and sexual intercourse.
The Problem with porn is the fact that it can and often does stimulate to the point of addiction. When you get married. You are suppose to consummate which makes a relationship complete by having sexual intercourse.
But if your partner is addicted to pornography then it most certainly can cause problems in the relationship because that person is use to getting stimulated by the porn rather than the partner; In that case the spouse doesn't get sexually fulfilled.
One can feel especially a woman undesirable and feel cheated if their spouse has to always run to pornography. Instead of a one on one sexual relationship, the man can put off sex because he has already been satisfied by watching the porn.
Pornography can destroy a marriage or relationship when it is an addiction. The woman usually can't compete with the porn or the man or partner may keep porn a secret for as long as he can and not express the problem with it by brushing it off as just an occasional X Rated Movie.
If you are in a Christian Relationship it really creates problems because you are allowing the enemy to control your mind with images of people that aren't your spouse, This lust of the flesh can lead to adultery. When the two of you get married, you become one flesh. Your body belongs to each other. You are supposed to get stimulation and arousal from each other and not resort to other things for sexual gratification. That will definitely cause problems in the marriage.
Maybe that is why Marriage Counseling and or Getting to know your spouse is so important before you walk down the isle, because the marriage means nothing without a commitment. How can two walk together except they are in agreement.
I myself have been in relationships where we weren't both on the same page. Sometimes you can get into a relationship for companionship or loneliness and not necessarily for love and commitment. When you are young and inexperienced anything is possible with your mind because you may just want a sexual gratification which can lead to a long term relationship based on sex but you then develop so many feelings that it becomes a "Soul Tie".
"Soul Ties: are then hard to break away from, You are emotionally tied to that individual even if you wanna break away, your body seems and or your emotions are addicted to the gratification. This is why some people can be in an abusive relationship and not leave because they feel emotionally tied to that person even though they know that this person is not an ideal mate at all but a thorn in the flesh.
If you are addicted to porn and want to be free from it in order to save your marriage or relationship, then you need to seek counseling or help. Porn is definitely not the answer in a committed relationship. It ruins a woman's self esteem and nobody can compete with porn stars nor should they have to in order to be with anyone.
Personally, I hate Pornography. It is a lustful spirit which will control the mind, body and soul in time and rob you of a real relationship with a real person. You are living in a fantasy instead of being real with your spouse. Somebody will be hurt in the relationship if porn isn't consensual.
If anyone reading this is a slave to porn, then you are in a form of bondage. God wants us to be free from all yokes of bondage. He wants us to not yield to the flesh but to the Holy Spirit. Don't allow your flesh to control your mind and body, but let the spirit of God cleanse you from all forms of perversions.
Sex is a beautiful thing with two people that love each other and are committed to each other, but when you start including porn and other addictions in the relationship that have nothing to do with the spouse then you are walking in the flesh and it can conceive itself in the form of a Divorce or the end of the relationship.
If you love Pornography then don't get married or in a committed relationship because you are not ready for a commitment. You are still a Sex Slave in need of Deliverance. Let the Lord clean you up and transform you by the renewing of your mind. Romans 12:2 And be not conformed to this world; but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good and acceptable, and perfect will of God.
Romans 7:18 For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out.
1 Corinthians 6:18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man does is without the body; but he that commits fornication sins against his own body.
Matthews 5:28 But I say unto you, that whosoever looks on a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart.
Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled, but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
James 5:16 Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much.
Proverbs 6:32 But whoso commiteth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that does it destroys his own soul.
I pray that you have gotten something out of reading this post. Sexual Sins are Real. Many people are keeping silent about being Bound by Chains of bondage. May the Lord Himself show you the error of your ways so that you can become free. For whom the Son has set free is Free Indeed.